Ladies and gentlemen welcome to the game. This one is going to hurt a little bit. Ok, it might be excruciatingly painful.
Because for the next few moments that you're with me reading this, I'm going to call out some of your insecurities. Your hypocritical behavior needs to stop.
What do I mean by that?
Here it is…
Remember last week when you cold messaged several ideal clients? And every single one of them ghosted you? You got pissed off. Your mind shut down. You even closed your computer and walked over to your couch. So you could sit there and throw yourself a pity party.
And what a splendid party it was, indeed. Congratulations. You sat there for the next three hours, wallowing in your self-pity.
All that rejection reminded you of how you couldn't get a date a few years ago because you were overweight. And the times when your parents didn't support your hopes and dreams. You blamed it on them being immigrants and "not getting it."
When you applied to the College of your dreams, and even they rejected you because "your grades don't meet our standards."
All those insecurities and lack of self-worth. It always bubbles to the surface when potential clients reject you.
That's why I'm telling you that you need to heal your sh*t before you empower your clients to do the same.
Because you're asking your clients to overcome their insecurities and step out of their comfort zone but, you aren't even capable of doing that for yourself.
How insane does that sound?
"One thing you can't hide - is when you're crippled inside."
― John Lennon
Let me fill you in on a little secret:
Your insecurities are super unattractive—that feeling of unworthiness you have projects onto the people you encounter.
Everyone can see the hurt 12-year-old boy or girl inside you.
Especially potential clients that you're talking to.
You have to deal with that. Explore ways to overcome your emotional pain because that same fear of rejection that you're experiencing right now is precisely what's holding you back from scaling your online business.
Don't believe me?
Because when people sense that your fragile ego can't handle being told "no," they end up telling you no even more often.
Most people don't want to work with someone who isn't resilient. Let alone pay them to teach them how to push their limitations.
Is it starting to make more sense now?
So how are you going to heal your sh*t? That's the million-dollar question.
There are countless ways you can do it.
Talk to a therapist.
Read self-help books.
Practice journaling each day.
And the list goes on. It's all up to you.
But, for the love of all that is holy…
Heal your sh*t before you empower your clients to do the same.
If you are ready to learn more about how to heal your sh*t before you empower your clients to do the same, book a call with us.